People judge themselves based on their own positive intentions, but they judge others based on their actions.
Other people do not need you to be Mother Teresa in order to admire and respect you. They just need you to be the kind of person who values treating other people decently. Being just a little bit nice seems to go a very long way.
Quite often, we have strong expectations about how events in our lives should unfold and how we should feel as they do.
When it comes to being nice, research offers a tip: don’t overdo it.